David Farnan & Thomas Williams
June 17, 2017 — The Gilcrease Museum
Thomas Williams and David Farnan with their goldendoodle Olly
David’s hometown: Bartlesville. Thomas’ hometown: Broken Arrow. Live in: Tulsa.
How they met: David and Thomas conversed online for two weeks before they decided to meet up. On their first date, they watched a band at Guthrie Green, got burgers at Fat Guys and talked before going back to Thomas’ to watch a movie. The next day, Thomas sang karaoke while David watched. That was four years ago, and they’ve been together ever since.
The proposal: On Thanksgiving Day 2015, David and Thomas spent the afternoon hiking in Muir Woods near San Francisco. They took a break in a secluded part of the woods, and Thomas popped the question.
What was unique about the wedding? The couple had handfasting and water ceremonies during the wedding. Both walked with their moms down the aisle. Thomas and David each had bouquets, and their 9-month old goldendoodle, Olly, also walked down the aisle. Thomas’ best friend, Caitlin, was “best ma’am.” The couple learned an Argentine tango for the first dance. There were two groom’s cakes — David’s was mini peanut butter pies and Thomas’ was a turtle cheesecake made by his mom.
Thomas’ advice to other brides/grooms: Make your ceremony special and specific to you and your spouse. Pick readings, traditions and music that resonate with you. When stressed, just remind yourself that people put on beautiful weddings all the time in less time than you have.
David’s advice to other brides/grooms: Separate responsibilities between spouses. Pick responsibilities that interest you and play to your strengths. As it gets closer to the day, delegate tasks. You don’t have to do everything; that’s what the wedding party is for.
Three adjectives to describe the wedding: Perfect, love-filled, magical.
Time to plan the wedding: Nine months.
Ceremony/reception/caterer: Gilcrease Museum.
Grooms’ suits: Custom Klein Epstein and Parker.
Formal wear: David’s Bridal, Macy’s and Marc Darcy.
Rings: Jewelry By Johan.
Rehearsal dinner: Dilly Diner.
Cake: Gluten-free cake by Coffee House on Cherry Street.
Invitations: Wedding Paper Divas.
Hair: Steven Lowry and Kelsi Downey.
DJ and lighting: Banks Entertainment.
Linens: ABCO Party Rentals.
Hotel: Fairfield Inn and Suites Tulsa Downtown.
Officiant: Steven Williams, All Souls Unitarian Church.
Honeymoon: A trip to Japan in August.