Five questions: Leslie Wardman



Leslie Wardman

Leslie Wardman, the CEO and founder of Ambiance Matchmaking, is a matchmaker, an author and an expert on love and dating.

1 What’s the difference between an online dating website and your matchmaking business? I don’t know what the percentage of fraudulent online profiles is, but it has continued to grow. You just don’t know what you are getting yourself into. Also, on online profiles, I think a lot of people put a little bit more of what they wish they were, as opposed to reality. That must be the No. 1 difference because we screen people, and online they don’t.

We do a phone interview followed by an in-office personal consultation, where we ask the client about family values, work, hobbies, how they spend their time on the weekends and more. We are very particular about who we take as a client. We feel very strongly that someone should have their ducks in a row before they go into something that is huge, such as (finding) a significant other or marriage.

2 What makes two people a good match? First, I will say that of all the couples that have gotten married (through Ambiance), only one that we know of has divorced. The point being, we put together really good marriages.

We are always getting more sophisticated and savvy, but one thing that determines a good match would be how someone was raised. It’s like being programmed, like a computer. And how you watched your parents interact.

Also, how somebody knows himself or herself. The more you know yourself, the more you can readily embrace a significant other. And if I could add one more, I would say energy and balance. By “energy” I mean what kind of energy you have — how you embrace life and go after it.

3 What is the No. 1 mistake people make when looking for love? People have these guidelines and barriers and rules, and they think that they have to implement them in order to find the best match — and nothing could be further from the truth. If I were to write a book right now, it would be called “Leslie’s Rule Book,” and you would open it up and it would be a bunch of blank pages. I think people need to be more open-minded to the possibilities as opposed to having a little box where they think their significant other is sitting.

4 What is your idea of the perfect date? The right table, a glass of wine, a nice ambiance where you can get to know each other one on one, to talk and embrace each other’s ideas and philosophies and thoughts. It’s pretty simple. … Because if you meet the right person, there is nothing you want more than to sit there and get enthralled in their world and what makes them tick, and laugh and enjoy each other’s company. And then maybe take a walk.

5 What advice do you have for someone looking for love? Know yourself. The better you know yourself, the better you will be able to love yourself and open up the possibility of loving someone else. … For anyone that has given up on love, tell them not to. It’s worth the hunt and the search, and it involves some energy and strategic planning, perhaps. … Explore the possibilities, and keep living and learning and questing for that possibility.


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When I’m bored I … I don’t know. I call my boyfriend? I don’t get bored because there is always something to do. I like to exercise, read and learn.

Day or night person? Definitely both!

To unwind, I … have a glass of wine.

My worst habit is … Facebook.

The last book I read was … Bill O’Reilly’s new bestseller, “Killing Jesus.” It’s a great book.

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